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He Doesn't Trust YOU

Interestingly enough, guilty guys often project their insecurities onto their partners, wondering where they are every minute of the day. “Some cheaters may also use accusations to put their partners on the defensive and cover their tracks, which is deeply manipulative,” says Julie Nise, a psychotherapist and spokesperson for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. But before you toss his stuff on the sidewalk, Nise adds, there might be another explanation. “He could just be feeling insecure and needs more of your attention.”

Men confess: What makes them fall in love

Most people have a hard enough time admitting that they've fallen in love with another, never mind explaining what brought on such euphoria in the first place. Even women -- the fairer, more verbal sex -- rarely go into detail about how their hearts were won. Maybe that's just because, according to an old Chinese proverb, "Couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking." Um, right!
Here, the juicy secrets they revealed:

"I found true love only one time in my life. Talk about compatible, we had everything in common -- from taste in food to how many times we wanted sex. There was nothing about her I didn't like, until I found out that she did it only to please me and she didn't like anything we did together (except maybe the sex). She was a great actress and a great heartbreaker! My advice: Be honest and search for compatibility." --Giovanni, 41, CA

"I fell in love with my fiance, and I didn't even see it coming. One day I didn't get a chance to see her and found myself missing her smile, her laugh, her smell. You begin to recognize, expect and miss the way she does things or makes you feel. And then she surprises you, and you love her even more. I love the way she walks, moves, even the way she puts things in her purse." --Ed, 26, NY

"True story: I met a woman online, and when we got together for our first date, she said, 'I hope you don't mind, but I don't feel like a fancy dinner. Can we just go get some burgers and a few beers, then go back to my house and play video games?' Now, I'm not a big video gamer, but even I thought that was adorable. It was true, pure love. Then we broke up, but still..."--Tom, 34, NY

I love it when women can do guy stuff better than me. Everyone is a better driver than I am -- in fact, everyone's blind, drunken grandmother is a better driver than I am -- so that doesn't count, but women who do things like eating hot peppers or belching or enjoying war movies make me crazy in the good way." --Tom, 34, NY "To fall in love, I need to feel safe to discuss anything with my girlfriend and know that she will not judge me harshly. I also need to know that she supports me, because life is tough enough without having to battle in relationships. She should have inner and outer beauty. She should be honest, and if there is a problem, we should work together to resolve it in a constructive way. Her personality should bring out my best qualities, including my sense of humor." --Ralph, 36, DC

"Love is a series of subtle events culminating with the realization that this woman is capable of drawing out a force that allows you to be something more than you can be on your own, something greater." --Doug, 29, MA

"I fell in love with a girl when she could tell me what a 6-4-3 DP meant in a baseball box score without having to be told 3,987 times. I fell in love with a girl when she truly realized that I'm not selfish, just completely clueless about why she would want someone other than me. I fell for a girl when she understood that it doesn't have to be true when she massages my ego. It doesn't even have to be reasonable or make sense, just as long as the ego boosts keep coming." --Danny, 24, DC

"You just have to be able to talk to each other." --Doug, 30, MA

"If you know when my head is in a bad place, if you know when I need a phone call, if you know when I need to be told I'm good at something, if you know when I need to be told I'm awful at something, then just maybe I'm falling in love with you." --Matt, 25, PA

10 traits man look for in a girlfriend

1. She has a life of her own  — and it's pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life's pleasures — from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence," says Daily. In other words, you're not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your "real life" started.

2. She never makes the first move. This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But Daily says that she strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Her reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it's just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren't programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase, Daily says.

3. She is sexy without being trampy. This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road, Daily says. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it's okay to play footsie under the table.

4. She waits to have sex. Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a "pure white bride" nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Daily says that many women don't even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as "the cuddle hormone"), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Daily warns that if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Daily's advice is to wait at least one month into the relationship before having sex with your new man.

5. She does little things to show she cares. Daily has one friend who noticed that her traveling salesman boyfriend never had time to get his shirts washed, so he would just go out and buy new ones. Her friend started to drop off his laundry at the dry cleaners once a week. Daily herself cooks for her husband. "It's as if he doesn't even know where the kitchen is," she says. "But that's not to say that he starves when I'm out of town." No, you do not have to turn into June Cleaver. The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you. Daily boasts that her man scrapes the ice off her windshield on cold winter mornings!

6. She should be her boyfriend's best wingman — err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, advises Daily. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.

7. She never turns on the pressure. This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure, says Daily. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together.

8. She does not take any crap — from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can't get away with anything. If he knows there's a penalty — like getting thrown to the curb — for a serious violation like cheating, he'll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.

9. A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. "Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is," Daily says. You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.

10. She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation. Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Daily says that some women have an "a-ha" moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. "I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own," Daily says. "A certain amount of toe curling is key as well."