How to act around girls ?

Although interacting with girls seems like an intimidating endeavor to many guys, adhering to certain principles allows it to be a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

Be yourself. It's important to maintain self confidence by being yourself around girls. If you adopt an alternate personality to attract girls, you will eventually be weighed down with the feeling that your true self isn't good enough. It may help to develop and improve your social skills, but any girls that don't appreciate you for who you are don't deserve your attention.

Relax. When you are tense or nervous, you will be more prone to feeling embarrassed if you make some minor mistakes. Staying calm allows you to fully enjoy a girl's company. Be careful not to place all your hopes on a single girl; it will only make it more painful if things don't work out as you would like. Don't let any prior sour experiences prevent you from seeking opportunities that are available to you.

Respect all girls equally. You stand a much better chance of making a good overall impression if you treat girls that don't interest you just as nicely as those that do. This doesn't mean that you need to talk to or flirt with every girl, but don't ignore them or treat them dismissively. Don't talk to a girl about other girls' attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. You generally shouldn't talk about past relationships you've had, or other girls that interest you; it detracts from building a new relationship.

Exhibit good manners. Girls love guys who are polite and courteous. Refrain from doing or saying things that many people consider offensive, including swearing and making sexist/racist/etc. jokes or comments. Saying things that you know would probably offend some people isn't a good way to make or keep friends. If you act like a gentleman, demonstrating your respect for females and other people in general, girls will be more likely to welcome your company.

Be attentive. When you talk to a girl, give her your full attention. Make eye contact, and don't give in to distractions. Listen carefully to what she says, and you may learn a lot about her and discover interests that you have in common.

Be sensitive to her feelings. If she seems upset about something, don't try to downplay her emotions or dismiss her concerns as being trivial. Sincerely offering sympathy to someone in distress will build trust between you, and it is an effective way to form friendship or gain a girl's interest.

Make her laugh. Engaging in lighthearted banter will make it easier to talk about more serious things, allowing you and a girl to learn about each other without feeling as awkward about it. A good sense of humor is one of the most attractive qualities a guy can have, and it will help override any possible negative preconceptions a girl may have about you. Remember, however, that being funny isn't appropriate in every situation, and your style of humor won't necessarily impress every girl.

Recognize that physical contact should be limited by the state of your relationship.

• Acquaintances — A handshake when introducing yourself is probably a reasonable limit for a first meeting. You can also subtly brush your hand against her hand or arm.
• Casual Friends or Prospective Dates — You could try something like touching her hair or playfully poking her in the side and asking if she is ticklish. This is generally considered flirting, and if a girl doesn't appreciate your advances, it's best to apologize and refrain from making similar contact.
• Good Friends — It is generally acceptable to give friendly hugs to girls that you know fairly well, even if you aren't a couple. Just be sensitive to the girl's feelings about it; pressuring her to hug you will make her uncomfortable.
• Boyfriend/Girlfriend — When you've grown closer, ( take it slow ) you can hold her hand or wrap your arm around her shoulders or waist when you're walking together. With her consent, you can also kiss her.
• Note: Obtaining a girl's consent before hugging or kissing (or other contact) does not necessarily require a verbal confirmation. Pay attention to her body language to ensure that she isn't looking apprehensive or trying to pull away, and don't try to surprise her unless you already know she won't mind.If she's trying to pull away, let her go!!!

Make her feel special. After making a good first impression, if you hope to pursue a more earnest relationship with a particular girl, you should elevate your efforts to treat her well and express your romantic interest. Offer sincere compliments, flirt, and watch for an opportune moment to ask her out.

Tips:

• Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. A lot of girls find that really cute, especially if you are able to recover with good humor.
• If you have a good relationship with a sister close to your age, that can be a model for how to move and speak around girls.
• It's okay to tease her a little, but generally not about her appearance. If you're not sure she'll take your teasing the right way, try something else instead. Just watch your timing and try not to be too goofy, or you may make a fool of yourself.
• Watch her body language; if she's shifting her weight a lot and not making eye contact, she's probably uncomfortable. It may be the conversation topic, how close you are standing or sitting next to her, or something else. Respect her feelings, and change the subject or step back, if necessary, depending on what is bothering her.
• If no commitment has been established between you and a girl, don't get jealous of her flirting with other guys. She can't be considered disloyal if you haven't even started dating her yet. Also note that such flirting does not by itself indicate that you can't form an exclusive relationship with her at some point, but acting jealous can make it more difficult to cultivate that relationship.
• Girls like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Smile at her in a way that's clear, friendly, and/or playful. If you feel compelled to honesty, you can offer a sincere compliment. For example, you could say she has beautiful eyes or a beautiful smile. But, only say things like that if you want it to be obvious that you intend on moving beyond flirting. Select something good that is reserved for her only; it will make her feel wonderfully special, admired, and beautiful.
• Be the same around her and your friends. Get to know her friends and be friends with them. This will show her that you're nice and friendly.
• Don't try too hard. She'll notice.
• Be especially careful in breaking the touch barrier with shy girls. Shy girls are going to have very good guy friends they may even like, but suddenly going up to them and hugging them/demanding a hug may seem threatening to her. If you know she's shy, take it slow. Very slow.
• Make the first move if you can, girls feel weird when they have to ask a guy out.
• Girls like it when guys are nice to them. So don't try to be rude or do stupid things. All you have to do is to be yourself and act as a gentleman (for example, open a door for her or help her with something). Girls like guys who are polite. So just be sweet, funny, and friendly.
• When she's cold, say, "Are you cold?" She'll say, "Yeah, a little." Then you say, "You wanna borrow my jacket?" Whatever the answer, she'll like the offering.
• Don't send girls mixed signals or they'll get confused about whether you like them or not. Don't make it too obvious, but give her some hints so that she can figure out that you like her.

Warnings:

• Don't be too casual in sharing the details of your interactions with a girl. You should limit the disclosure to really close friends whom you can trust to not tell others. If you treat your relationship with a girl as a form of entertainment for your friends, you will undermine the potential for a deeper and lasting connection with her.
• Don't focus too much on one girl if she isn't enjoying the extra attention. She may get annoyed, and it will likely hurt your relationship.
• Many girls like it when you can't take your eyes off them, but not when you're staring at their boobs. Although there are some girls that may enjoy such attention, you won't offend anyone by focusing on her face instead. Do not oggle her. Just remember to use discretion and show proper respect.
• There is nothing wrong with trying to make her feel special long into a relationship, but trying to kiss up to her, especially within the first few weeks of knowing her, will do more harm than good, and you will be labeled more as a friend who tries to buy her attention than a potential mate.
• Having good manners is important. Don't pick your nose, scratch your butt, pick at your body in any way, fart, or burp, cough, or sneeze with your mouth wide open, etc. Gross her out, and you'll be lucky if she ever looks at you again.
  • There are some girls out there that think burps and farts are hilarious, and would love you for them. Remember, don't generalize; learn about her personality.
• Don't say perverted things or jokes. It grosses most girls out and they will not think well of you for it. You may be trying to be funny, but it is disgusting and a huge turn-off.
• Be especially careful of what you say about her appearance. Don't ever tell her that she looks bad. Restrict use of words like "hot" or "sexy". Even if said in a joking fashion, things like this can make a girl feel very self-conscious, whether you are referring to her or to someone else.
• If you feel "sexually aroused," hide it but not in too obvious of a manner. If it's too obvious you get aroused around them they will get creeped out.
• Don't make mean comments about her friends or things that she likes, such as her taste in music; it might annoy her.